SupAHmommy Speaks…{the one and only}: June 2010

Be a Better Person

Who am I ?

First :

I GOT 69 COMMENTS on my Post It Note Tuesday.

Just sayin' lol

Second , that's me up there.

In case you were wondering what I looked like.

Lots of people always think I'm going to look different for some reason- it's funny. I didn't really sport my image for most of my blogging career. So I was a cartoon. to some people.

But I am a real person - lol

One who brushes their daughters hair with a my little pony hairbrush some days

and is okay with that. :)

My point today :

I am a silly person. I like a great joke. My most favorite thing to do is to LAUGH and to LAUGH hard. Lately I haven't done much of that because I"ve been working so hard and we've been having hellish vacations to no where with 3 kids.

TRAPPED IN A CAR.

It sounds like a "Lifetime" movie huh?

I've also neglected to take my anxiety medication because it was simply - still packed away. But this is how people like me work. We go and go and go and go like the energizer bunny- never stopping to take care of ourselves. And we just whittle ourself down - into a pit of crap. It's called depression and anxiety and it's no secret that I suffer from it. I don't mean that " I'm an obvious candidate for such issues" You could pick me out of a crowd.... I MEANT: it's not a secret.

I share it with everyone and I'm not ashamed of who I am or the neurons that have veered off path in my head. Three days without those meds and I am a different person. One who doesn't laugh. One who feels like she's going to implode. one who yells. One who feels like I AM A WALKING DEADLINE that cannot be met. I am no fun. That's not me.

This is the real me.

Silly and fun. And loving to my kids.
I need medication in my life to help me be a better person.
I need to surround myself with good people to be a better person.
I need to GIVE back , to be a better person.
I need to - stop, drop and walk away from all that isn't important and hug my girls to be a better person.
I need to laugh more to be a better person.

What helps you to be a better person?

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Year 9 husband

Big Gay Bag

NOW

Let's talk about that comment you're goinna leave me. Don't be using my ass.
I'm not all proper like other nice bloggers.

I'm a gimmeeee kinna girl.

So gimmee. :)

xoxo

After leaving me some love:

Then visit some new friends.
Usually the tenant above you if anyone.
But if they're spam- light their blog on fire. Then find others to say hi to !

make new friends and koombaya and shit like that

make me a smores while you're at it

xoxo

BBQ , Random Thoughts and the Big Gay Bag

A few " SUPAH" thoughts before I get started:

1123 followers
then 1124
then 1123
then 1124
THEN 1123
then 1124
then 1123

Seriously.? Who is the SYBIL who cannot commit to me?? Heeeeeeeyyyyyyyyy SYBIL I don't bite. FREAKING JUMP SHIP or stay for the Pina Colada's OKAY?? But let's take a deep breath- AND COMMIT. If my marriage isn't enough to give you confidence in committing to someone like me, well then. I'm not sure what I'll have to do. IF I CAN COMMIT TO SOMEONE LIKE DBD FOR 10 YEARS PLUS ( 9 legally) then you can give me THAT DAMN FOLLOW!!!

still have cold feet?
SEEee those little lighted paths to the EXIT???

Go follow THAT.

SOCCER:

seriously - the horns.

I wanted to kill myself after watching for 4 seconds. It's worse than watching that Tom Cruise couch jumping shit from 4 years ago. * shudder*

It's enough to drive any anxiety ridden , pill poppin, no patience , NEVER GETS A QUIET SECOND for 18 hours straight. MOMMA to her GRAVE. ( no i AM NOT talking about myself.. pshhhhht )

HOW ABOUT we just clap using the sign language sign??

THEN maybe I can catch the action of the World Cup.

Today's Post:

So it's never okay to really grill your family on blogs- so I don't ever. But DBD is a whollllleeeeee nother story- so let's have a BBQ mmmmkay?

This weekend DBD made a foul foul mistake. I was throwing red flags down left and right.

we were having our weekly come to " Jesus" calm and orderly talk ( lie) and were discussing , not arguing nor flinging mud ( lie) some areas that need improvement. ( that i saw) ( in him. ) ( not me) ( lets be crystal clear k?)

I made fun of his " 5 hour long weeding " attempt. which pissed him off.

PEOPLE:!!! RIDDLE ME THIS...????

WHO WEEDS FOR 5 freaking HOURS???

someone using their FREAKING TOES OKAY??

Put some hustle in that BUSTLE!

HE TOLD ME TO WEED IT MYSELF the next time.

ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh : smack down
bring it on .

I made sure to let him know that I do PLENTY enough around here- including all of the cleaning slavery of every orifice of this house.

Unlike him.

You know what that mo fo said to me????

yah... like the bathrooms are clean.

ERRTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT- careen and veer off the expressway and come to a jerking stop on the exit ramp- turn around to KILL HIM.

* fast forward through an emotional breakdown from Momma Supah*

Pause: at this point.

Supah cleaned all 4 bathrooms at 11 PM THAT NIGHT- hands and knees. Medicine cabinets, under sink GROSSNESS AREAS - here there everywhere a clean clean.

you know how I cleaned up

BIG WHITE GARBAGE BAGS
You know what items were the first to make it into the garbage? Never to return?

Guess.

When he went looking to brush his teeth, comb his hair, trim his beard , shave, put deodorant on........... et. cet. er. a. et. cet. er a.

I directed him to his new toiletry bag.
oh wait. I threw that out too. :)

HE and sybil can SUCK IT. :)

Oh yeah.

And the big gay bag story?

Here you go. :) Its his agreed upon punishment :)
BIG GAY BAG STORY

JADEN UPDATE: Pray for Kadie!

Little dude got a chance to re- group again this week! While scheduled for a week of treatment- it was " held off " due to a little bit of a cough! So J-dawg will begin treatment THIS WEEK. So pray for a smooth week with no ROUGH SPOTS. xooxoxox to you little man and xooxoxo and hugs to the whole Duttine family. We love you all and support you from all around the world !

The Duttines' ask that we pray for little Kadie Stonebraker

please pray for Kadie, another little girl with neuroblastoma... finished treatment a few months ago and rescans show tumor again... neuroblastoma is a FREAKING MONSTER... our hearts and prayers go out to the Stonebraker family... sending you TONS of angels!!! xoxoxoxo ♥ ♥ ♥

HERE IS KADIES' CARING BRIDGE PAGE;

http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/kadiels

Kadie , Kelly Loney tells us- was Ethan's little girlfriend. He's now watching over her from above.

Let's help him!

Here are some pictures of Kadie - to pump you up and get those prayers going. Her mother , Sarah shaved off her hair in support of her daughter and all going through this.

WE LOVE YOU KADIE AND WILL PRAY PRAY PRAY FOR YOU ! Jaden - kick some butt dude.

kelly- you are in our hearts forever! I know that you are helping these families this week - you are amazing.

BRING IT ON FRIENDS!! BRING IT ON ! BRING. ON . THE PRAYERS. '

These babies need you !

xoxoxooxoxox

Year 9 husband

As a married person of now 9 years there are certain concessions that one makes in order to keep the marriage - .well..... let's just say in order to " keep it. "

Do you notice this?

Things that pissed me the hell off year 5- are no longer issues in year 9. I just growl and focus on a year 9 issue.

Through the years:

Year 1 complaint- HI, YA.... You seriously left your whiskers in the sink? Let's wipe that shit up.

Year 2 complaint- Yah. Hey Husband. See that hamper. It's FOR CLOTHES. See the floor next to it. NOT FOR CLOTHES.

Year 3 complaint- ( pregnant wife now) REALLY? REALLY? You invited people over to TOUR the house when the kitchen looks like THAT????? WTF ARE YOU THINKING? Also. Please QUIT STUFFING SHIT EVERYWHERE!!

year 4 complaint ( kids) YES. I DO expect you to GET YOUR ASS UP and help with the baby at night.

year 5 complaint - You are NOT A HANDY person. Let's sit down and admit this truth right now... right here.. right in the open. And put down the screwdriver. Preferably in the tool box.

Year 6 complaint - (2 kids now) Yes. The tub DOES need cleaned before the babies get tubs. Yes. We do have cleaner for this purpose. No. It is not resolve carpet cleaner. While you're at it- Can you try to unplug the drain while you're at it with your screwdriver you left on the stairs?

Year 7 complaint - your closet is a mess . Close the door at least and THIS is your bathroom now. ( pointing to garden hose and birdbath) Put your whiskers there.

Year 8 complaint ( 3 kids) - What was that trick about stuffing shit? I have people coming to tour the house and get the screwdriver out of the drain please. Ty.

Year 9 complaint- Get the Resolve! The tub needs wiped down. Grab a shirt off the floor next to the hamper and use that for a rag.

LOl

What's next! YEAR 10 HERE WE COME!

I must tell you also- that I sat on the edge of the pool and laughed as my two girly girls SCREAMED like madwomen about a little bug crawling on the corner edge of the pool.

I had the baby so I yelled to 9 year husband to get it- so they would shooosh!

Dbd ( death bed dan) does NOT LIKE bugs - especially spiders. So I'm sure he was thinking it was a spider. He also didnt' have his glasses on ... so he's as blind as a bat.

So year 9 husband does this as I watch in fascination and awe.

He does NOT just get in the water and scoop the effer out wtih his hand- problem solved.

He goes to the side wall of the pool. Takes the HUGE 4 FOOTBALL FIELDS LONG skimmer net pole down and begins to attempt to try to jab at an unseen bug hiding on the corner of the pool edge. Yet the pole is SOOOOOOOOO LONG it is hitting the ceiling as he is jabbing blindly.

HITTING NEAR TO THE GLASS LIGHTS!

i am screaming - STOP you *&^^^^&&**%$##@@@#$%^&**((()))**&&^%^%%%$$###$$ You're goinna BREAK A GLASS LIGHT OVER THE POOL!!!!!!!

So what does he do?

Put it back and use the EASY METHOD?

Of course not.

9 year husband ... just lowers the pool and tries to WATCH where the end of the pole is hitting while trying to blindly jab for, what I think was a friggin ladybug.

Year 10. Help me please.

xoxoxo

glad to be back

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Nuff said.
Stock me up.

Great Wolf Lodge is next.
I'm goinna get stuck in a watertube slide- i can feel it.

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Then visit some new friends. Usually it's courteous to visit the one above you at least. But what do I know about courtesy. I cut some dude off in the grocery line just because his old legs weren't fast enough to beat my right turn into the "express line. " He wasn't pleased and I wasn't courteous.

Jaden Update and Vacation Issues

Isn't that the sweetest pic. Jaden, Joey and their little cousin Robbie.

Such " love" in that little circle.

(Look at his hair too! Our little fuzzy head!)

Jaden finished up 5 days of treatment in CHP last week and came home for the weekend. During his stay last week he had some very special visitors. Kelly, Ken and Sarah Loney came to visit. Julie tells us the inevitable happened and Jaden asked where Ethan was. What incredible people the Loney's must be. To endure such a heartbreaking question from someone who has been so very intertwined in their lives in so many ways. I imagine the room was very still for minute - and Ethan hugged them all from afar with his little arms. Just so that they could continue to breath for just f ew more minutes until their strength returned enough to go forward. I know that the Duttines' are incredibly thankful to have the Loney's in their lives. The visit from them meant so much I'm sure. We continue to think of you all , always.

Jaden returns to CHP ( Children's Hospital of Pittsburgh) today with Julie for a rough week of treatment. Julie asks for your continued prayers- hard core this week so that her baby sails through this with a smile on his face! Start praying, loving, thinking about and wrapping your arms around our little boy . Keep him safe from all that threatens him.

xoxoxo

As for my family- we are here on vacation. Or Killmenowcation. We are in North Carolina for a few days to visit some family members from afar and then the Virginia area for a stay at Great Wolf Lodge for some water fun that will be sure to induce incidents to blog about.

So far.....

North Carolina is pretty.

Pretty DAMN MO FO HOT.

Lord how do you all do this???

IF YOU ALL know me by now or at least read my post last week you know that I am a sweat hog. I coulda joined Kotter and John Travolta 20 some years ago just based on my sweating abilitites A- LONE!

Add to that: 100 degree heat with matching humidity..

WHY GOD WHYYYYYYYY???

Supah consistently begins to say this phrase under her breath, muttering like a mad women at any point in time.

" WHY THE CHUCK IS IT SO HOT HEREEEEEE?????"

" WHY THE CHUCK IS IT SO HOT HEREEEEEE?????"

" WHY THE CHUCK IS IT SO HOT HEREEEEEE?????"

" WHY THE CHUCK IS IT SO HOT HEREEEEEE?????"

" WHY THE CHUCK IS IT SO HOT HEREEEEEE?????"

" WHY THE CHUCK IS IT SO HOT HEREEEEEE?????"

as she endlessly mops her brow

My kids do not cooperate and this morning's lobby time fiasco proves such confirmation without any additional documentation on my part.

MnM is a grump ass.

( SHE'S just giving NC props to DBD"s ancestory - cuz it ain't me it's from *ahem*)

Yep Yep talks like her Aunt Nenny- without awareness to her decibals.

LIKE THIS AT ALL TIMES!! AND THEN SOME MORE WHEN YOU SHOOOOSH HER.

Booger thinks her new mobility affords her every opportunity to run wild. Even while duct taped to a high chair for a HARMLESSYOURPARENTSJUSTWANTTOEATAND GETSOME COFFEEbreakfast.

Our breakfast consisted of

1. arguments about the value of pop tarts as " fruit." between mnM and I.

2 fighting about who is going to talk first between Yep and Mnm

3. shoooshing and more shoooshing.. and more shooshing from us.

4. teeth gritted warnings of " if you don't stop RIGHT NOW."

5. GLANCES at the man reading the bible.

6. telepathic requests from me- to him- for PRAYERS FOR MY SANITY.

7. RICE KRISPIES EVERYWHERE

8. APPLE JUICE SPILL

9. a released 14month old after much screaming AND banana throwing

10. a 14month old visibly trying to poop while everyone eating breakfast in the QUIT AS A MO FO LIBRARY watched her.

11. a growled demand from me- TAKE THEM TO THE ROOM -

as I cleaned up.

12. A verbal request to the man with the bible to PRAY extra for me and my little family of joy.

xoxo enjoy your day and think of me stuck in this HOTEL ROOM with 3 - yelling at Yep for YET AGAIN pretending to knock on the wall so that we think someone is at the door.

EVERY SINGLE TIME we fall for it.

TInkers and Hoarders

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Other news;

The dingoes did not eat my kittays.

They're all alive....... unfortunately for the beheaded baby bunny i found in my yard.

The Kittay's got the bunNAY!

DBD is still in AZ. Called and said..... well. I have to go.. I'm goinna go grab a beer... it was long day.

I reached through the phone and handed him the 3 kids. then left looking for vodka.

TINKERS AND HOARDERS and other shit. ...

As I sat in Target feeding my girls soggy hotdogs and slurpees like any good mom would... I watched ( with one eye only, the other eye on my hellions ) the dollar section of Target.

They put it right up front- when you enter the building. Just like they put candy in the aisles for mom's of children who JUST WONT' STOP YELLING HER NAME.

They are smart.

The dollar section. So small, yet so powerful.

It is like a Siren's call to every person that passes. Lead laden doo dads and himmy flits- all stuffed into baskets and begging for your ONE DOLLAH. All the way from China. Things that have no real purpose in our world- except to clutter an already clutter filled house.

I watched countless people walk into Target and then directly into the dollar section. Those are the Eye of the Tiger Dollar Shoppers. They're seasoned. They're also on that hoarders show I'm sure.

I watched countless people walk into Target,, try to FLIT past like a little fairy, then slowly veer their flight path into the dollar section- as if mesmerized by cheap tin and american flag pinwheels shimmering in those baskets. Should I?? Could I??? WHAM! Dollar section hits them on the head:
ARE THOSE TINKERBELL SOCKS????

Dollar section 2, shoppers 0.

I watched countless people walk in as couples, only to be PULLED in at the request of spouse. ARE THESE DOG TOYS NOT THE MOST FUN? OMG.. do you think this has lead in it???

These are the indenial-ers. '

NO. No lead. No siree bob. Our dogs?? Will they love that oddly shaped rawhide bone or little ball with a bell in it or the BEST... this teeny tiny FEEDING DISH.

Sure honey. IF your dog is the size of tom fucking thumb and wants to choke on the bell that's sure to dislodge from this death toy! But they say not a word an patiently wait as significant other " shops" and stocks up on 56 of them.

I watched countless shoppers walk completely past and then turn abruptly. Walking back, head hung in shame. Gripping their D.S.S.A sobriety coin in their hands... to no avail.

My name is Supah and I am a dollar section addict.
Although I am the type that puts the shit back elsewhere in the store when I have come to my senses. Yes. That was me who put the pinwheel in the rainboot you just tried on.

MY bad!

I myself am a sucker. I'm a goner. I try to waltz by with my 456 lb cart lugging 1 , what is she? A toddler?? Dear God I have a toddler now. a preschooler and a defiant first grader. I'm a mac truck on a collision course for the dollar section. There is no waltzing by. Who am I kidding. I am eyeing that crap up the second I go through the pearly gates.

I try to pass it up.
But My cart - feels me. It kNOWS what I really want to do .

And it turns abruptly - into the dollar section. Because Lord knows there COULD BE something in that section that would look JUST PERFECT lying in the middle of my living room floor, broken in two after 1 use.

No honey, don't move it. That miniature baby chick basket is PERFECT there next to the ottoman. * sigh of content*

Or some item that would have an intended purpose....... a dream of use. Only to be left in a Target bag in the abyss that is my work office. Dreams all shattered an shit. Suffocating on the red of the target logo.

Why do we do this to ourselves. Why can we not pass up, even a mere glance at the dollar section? What is it within our American souls that leads us to CRAVE lead laden buncho crap?

Why do we browse this section as if it's a JImmy Choo shoe sale or a Coach bag and grab crazy sale. ( lemme know if you come across one of those .. ahem) eyeing up other " hoarders, tinkers and INdenial-ers" as they shop.

IF they lay oNE HAND ON THAT LAST set of gardening gloves with attached miniature silver lead shovel- I will have a kaniption. How will I ever grow my topsy turvy tomatoes without those gloves.

You are a lying fool if you say you don't even GLANCE at the section. You are a GLANCER in the least if not a Hoarder A Tinker and addict or an indenial-er.

Now. What to do with this new oddly sized , badly made beach bag. It's FER SURE going to hold a whole 3 sand shovels. I beat some hoarder down for it.